Advice for dating a single mum
There were stretches of time when he wasn’t around; either by his own volition or my mother protecting us from his disappointments. Having such an inconsistent father was my first example of what kind of father not to be.The same rang true in my friends’ households and even strangers in the neighborhood. Over time, I have shaped my own ideas about fatherhood and how I want to parent my children.In some respect my parents’ relationship and not having my dad there full time actually helped me prepare for fatherhood in ways I couldn’t comprehend until I was this age.
The evolution and stabilization of split off family units do not come about without mourning obsolete family units and coping with individual and systemic growing pains.Before you get involved with a new partner, as a single mom you wish there were a few things you could tell these potential paramours bluntly, although laying it all on the line might be a bit intimidating!If there were a guide to explaining to your love interests the things that they should know before dating you, a single mom, this one would be it!Yes, we would like love in our lives and it stinks that the father of our child or other coparent is not the big love we may have hoped for, but we aren't desperately posting on Craigslist for some guy to save us.Sure, after some of our marriages and relationships have dissolved, we may be lonely and wanting sex and companionship.